Although peer pressure begins way before junior high, it seems to be when it initially becomes more of an issue in children’s lives. Some of our children are particularly strong and have no problem speaking their mind. For more assertive students, the word “no” can be heard often without regret. Still, parents and teachers can reinforce certain guidelines to help them steer clear of undesirable situations.
For many students who are of middle school age, it can be helpful for them to contemplate about negative scenarios that could play out when peer pressure wins. Parents should not be afraid to talk to their children at any age. State the facts about the harm of drinking, smoking and drugs. Many people feel that anything interfering with bodily and mental health isn’t an acceptable means of getting into the limelight of popularity.
It seems that the term “friend” is so widely and loosely used. For some students in junior high, who they are unfortunately can equate with how their peers perceive them. Maybe it would be useful for parents and faculty members to ask children to differentiate between friendship and popularity. As many of us are aware, popularity doesn’t necessarily mean the same as wholesomeness. Consequently, some schools hold mandatory workshops several times within the school year.
Our children can mirror us early on in life and although morality cannot be taught, we need to practice good teaching, parenting and role modeling. In addition it’s important to discuss personal values with kids. Many of us want to be well-liked but we don’t always stop to think about other people’s behaviors.
As adults, we should surround ourselves with others who have things in common with us and come from a good background. As we age, super-stardom may seem irrelevant. True friendship and self-respect remain in their own realm. if there are no boundaries set, than peer pressure might as well win the war for life.